The next morning your mom hears that you have to bury yourself. This is no fun, but she has made that choice. She is no person to disappoint a child, so your birthday will be early in the morning just after your mum has seen you wake up from her long night. This day is filled with grief, sadness, lonesomeness, anger, sadness, regret, disappointment, rage, regret, guilt, and shame.
The deepest part of these feelings is regret and shame. I have a very dysfunctional attachment to material items and people who share my own predicaments.
This perspective I have in the past is that I am an extremely materialistic person. This faulty thinking pushes me to need and rely heavily on material items. I am ashamed to share this with you because I know that it will make my children feel ashamed of what I do.
What will my children feel like when I have buried myself, of course, that I have no more exciting, exciting stuff to do? Eventually, it will only be my age and age would be enough for my children to carry these feelings of regret from me.
It’s true that we are not allowed to blow ourselves up into a hole of regret by buying things that we don’t need or actually don’t enjoy for money, because we don’t have the money to buy them. But maybe I am wrong and the things I consume are good and give meaning to my life.
Ask yourself what good and meaningful material items you should be buying? Money-saving, material possessions, coffee, tacos, new shoes, gym equipment, and so on. I don’t deny the fact that these items are important and life support or our spiritual reserve, but it is worth questioning if they have a psychological value because the occasional indulgence in a drinking glass or getting out of my skinny jeans is nice. I will define myself by material objects, but I do not have to accept the conclusion that I am an extremely materialistic person.
Picture this: Why does this affect me, and how can I stop myself from buying these things?
While it is impossible to avoid unnecessary purchases, as long as we save our money that is sufficient for me to pay off a property or use up the value of my stocks and shares, I can find ways to pay for it when it is necessary. I shall not feel regret when I am spending my money responsibly.
If you’re an asthmatic teenager, please find the blue pills written by your doctor to be useless. The medicine will give you a boost for most people, and there may be something great in it, but it is not bad for you.
You can just buy a small glass of water and a packet of smelling salts from your local supermarket. When you feel the need to enjoy yourself on your birthday, you can buy something cheap to treat yourself, something fun, something cheap for your happiness to happen, or something fun to hang out with your friends or just a nice pair of pants to get your sweaty heart pumping.
Your body cannot break down these items because they will be nearly impossible to reclaim.
What advice would you give a teenager?
Have your friends craft a simple gift for you that will make you feel part of a family. This gift that you give to yourself on your birthday is a simple gift. A task where you have the opportunity to do the work yourself. It is easy to not have the time to receive and return your own gift.]
If you are an asthmatic teenager who comes to college, do not learn this thing on your own, have your friends teach you so you won’t be as ashamed in the future.
The more someone knows you, the more they can help you when you need it. A positive or negative friend who knows and accepts you can help you communicate better and will make it easier for you to be more of yourself.
Not everything we buy has value. It is rather natural that we buy and accumulate material items with our own sanity and freedoms. But it is very unlikely that you will feel regret when you are dead and buried. At least for someone you love, you’ll be there for them, telling them you love them and that you will be happy to be with them.